This is what feminists mean when we talk about rape culture: these cards are considered socially acceptable and men buy them. Women are socialized into believing they are nothing more than fucktoys and men are raised to believe that rape is a joke.
Stores sell merchandise encouraging men to beat and rape women, and men are complaining about misandry hats? Fucking hell.
This is the most disgusting shit I’ve ever seen in my life.
Let’s get serious, though — these cards and shirts and general merchandise are not considered ‘socially acceptable.’ There’s a much smaller segment of the population than we actually think that even comes close to thinking this would be okay — the shirts themselves are rated 1/5 stars from some 50 reviews (how many things on amazon do you see with that many reviews and that low of a vote?) Stuff like this caters to that diminutive population. Just like there’s tons of undercover merchandise that caters to other socially degenerative practices that we don’t say much about. Yes, rape and female abuse and harassment is real and legitimate and horrible 100% (I’m a woman, duh), but it doesn’t eclipse all the other ills in the world that consumer culture nurtures.
The more we talk about a ‘rape culture,’ the more we legitimate it. The more we give name and organizing power to something that is only expressed as isolated acts of immorality and violence, the more widespread its sentiment becomes. There are no rape cults, no rape tribes, or rape unions — we only remind serial rapists that there should be.
Women are socialized into thinking that their worth comes from their sexual capacity, but that’s the culture we create and feed into OURSELVES (women included) when we buy into and perpetuate the media gimmicks of certain celebrities and trends … not by being sexual or inherently by being female or because men subject us in that way.
But men aren’t raised to believe that rape is a joke. These items aren’t made for kids and little boys — they’re made for guys that have already been raised and socialized and impacted by the very same media gimmicks women fall victim to.
‘Rape Culture’, then, is just a product of social acclimation. And even more than that, it’s a product of hyper-sexualized gender norms that reinforce the divides in masculinity and femininity from a very young age. When we get older and start talking about a ‘culture of rape,’ as if it were something inflicted on and localized away from women — that’s often bullshit, I think. Not because women deserve it in any way, but because women are taught to be complicit (just like men are taught to be dominant) from a very early age.
The change starts with ourselves — using market forces subversively to cater to the demand for ethical, socially conscious, just merchandise; and raising our kids to be ethical, socially conscious, and just.
It’s the formative years that count.